Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Who's raising YOUR kids?

If you’re one of those stay-at-home moms who look down on working moms, or consider them to be lesser parents than the stay-at-home variety, move along, nothing to see here.

** waits patiently **

Are they gone?

Okay good. Let’s talk about ‘em!

Just kidding!!

Seriously though, I made the mistake today of reading a message board of SAHM vs Working Mom debates. There’s a reason I avoid those places… I only read it today out of boredom, I swear. There was a thread titled, “Why do you SAH?” and my favoritest answer in the whole wide world was, “Because I don’t want strangers raising my children.”

OMG why didn’t I think of that?? Here I am, every week, moving my preschooler from daycare to daycare in search of new strangers to raise him for me!

** pops forehead in perfect V8 fashion **

I KNOW that’s not what they meant, but seriously. Strangers? Raising? I hardly think so. First of all, I KNOW my DCP and I trust her. If I didn’t, he wouldn’t be there. That’s not to say I didn’t make a few errors in judgment when it came to care for Jaben, but I learned and in the end he had a great situation with a provider who treated him as a member of the family.

She loved him, she fed him, she got him to school in the morning. But did she raise him?

Um, no. Not hardly. I raised him, and am in fact still raising him… with the feeding and the washing and the teaching of right behavior, and the cleaning of the vomit and dirty dishes, and the morality (what? A single mom with morals?? Unheard of! *snicker*), and the clean your room or I’ll kill you, and the….

Well, you get the picture. *I* raise my kids. With a little help from my friends.

[singing] Ohhhh I get by with a little help from my friends….[/singing]


I’m not against SAHM’s, it’s just when I read those things it makes me kind of gag a little. I remember when I was pg with Jaben, someone (who shall remain nameless) told me that yes, other people would in fact be raising my child. Oh how ignorant and wrong she was. I actually get a little tired of the whole debate. Why is there a debate and why should there be? Everyone just do what’s best for yourself and your family and don’t worry about what other people are doing.


Um yeah. I might need a nap or something.


Jen said...

Amen. And screw that bitch Dr. Laura.

Tracey said...

Sigh... it's unfortunate that only the people with really strong opinions tend to speak out, because they're usually the ones to offend EVERYBODY. It's no doubt of mine that you're raising your son, but it's also no doubt of mine that other people ARE helping to raise everyone's kids, including mine. It's called a village, and thank GOD for it!

Rebecca said...

That’s true, very, VERY few of us do it all by ourselves, 100% of the time. I like how you put that.

My whole issue is with those who feel they are better parents (or rather, working parents are worse) because they are able to be there all day, whereas we can’t be. I just need to learn to avoid reading things I KNOW are going to make me mad. It’s just a waste of brain cells.